Greg Spolar， lived in China (2008-2017)
Answered Sep 13， 2017
There are a number of variables involved： Is she just a massage girl or a “happy ending” girl？ Does she like her job or does she wish she was doing something else？ If she leaves her job， does she expect you to support her financially？
The girl‘s character is what is most important. I was interested in a massage girl. She seemed very sweet. It turns out she was married and had a child. Even though her husband didn’t work， the family meant any relationship had to be “professional”.
有很多变数，她只是个按摩院的女孩还是个“幸福结局”的女孩？她喜欢她的工作还是她希望自己做别的事情？如果她离职了，她希望你在经济上支持她吗？
女孩的性格是最重要的。我对按摩女郎感兴趣。她看上去很可爱。结果她结婚了，有了一个孩子。尽管她的丈夫没有工作，但家庭意味着任何关系都必须“专业”。
Gary Westergren， Chinese/Japanese Proverb/Calligraphy Research Specialist
Answered Jul 24
You can figure out if she is open to it if she is willing to friend you on 微信 (WeChat). If she engages in conversation outside of the massage room on WeChat， you may have a chance. Download the app， and be ready to exchange mobile numbers (which is how users are established in WeChat).
But you will need to decide if you can handle the potential jealousy of your new lover also taking care of other men’s massages all day. This is probably the biggest challenge for you.
The language barrier and culture clash is the next issue. If you have never lived in China， some things your new girlfriend does will seem strange to you (even though it may be quite normal in Chinese culture).
If you want to have a successful relationship with a Chinese woman， I strongly suggest teaching English or living in China for about a year. Then you will know the difference between her own human quirks and her culture.
你可以看看她是否愿意打开她的微信让你成为上面的朋友，，如果她在微信上按摩室之外的地方与你交谈，你可能会有机会。下载该应用，并准备好交换移动电话号码（这是用户在微信中建立的方式）。
但是你需要决定你是否能处理好你对新情人潜在的嫉妒，同时也要整天为其他男人的按摩。这可能是你面临的最大挑战。
语言障碍和文化冲突是下一个问题。如果你从未在中国生活过，你的新女友做的一些事情会让你觉得很奇怪(尽管在中国文化中这很正常)。
如果你想和一个中国女人建立成功的关系，我强烈建议你教英语或者在中国生活一年。然后你就会知道她的人类怪癖和她的文化有什么不同。
Joseph Ang
Answered Jul 24
For normal massage， treat her like a normal girl， and ignore the rest of what I wrote；
for massage with happy ending：{
In most case： No NO no noNONONONONO noo no！！
Before you start to a relationship： please make sure you really have a feeling， but not because you just have a happy ending with her recently. Male tends to have a fake “love” after having intimate relationship with a female.
If you are sure you are in love， why not？ But beware of high rate of failure that cost you time， money and feeling.
There is a saying in Mandarin： “ There is no love in prostitute， There is no loyalty in actors/performers” Massage girls are not prostitute， but they have the same goal： money， before they are too old to attract more customers. If you succeed to establish a relationship ( long term and getting married， please mail me or whatever， I am super interested)
对于正常的按摩，把她当成一个正常的女孩，忽略我写的其余部分；
以快乐结尾的按摩：
在大多数情况下：不不不不不不！！
在开始一段感情之前：请确保你真的有感觉，但不是因为你最近和她有个幸福的结局。男性在与女性发生亲密关系后往往会假装“爱”。
如果你确定自己恋爱了，为什么不呢？但是要小心，高失败率会让你损失时间、金钱和感情。
“妓女没有爱情，演员没有忠诚”按摩女郎不是妓女，但她们有一个共同的目标：钱，在她们老得无法吸引更多的顾客之前。如果你成功的建立了一段关系(长期的并且结婚了，请给我发邮件或者别的什么，我非常感兴趣)
Sheng Zhong
Answered Sep 14， 2017
A similar question appeared in Zhihu， the Chinese counterpart of Quora， which led to a lot of discussions over there.
Most people seemed to agree that it is stupid to establish a personal relationship with a massage tech. As noticed by many people， these women are good at separating their personal lives from their job. Hence， whatever they say to you during the service should not be taken seriously. They may look and sound very interested in you personally， but it could be just a way to keep you as a customer.
However， there was also a story of falling love with a massage tech， which appears to be true. Are you an exception like the man in this story？ Decide it yourself.
类似的问题出现在Quora的中国版“知乎”(Zhihu)上，在那里引发了很多讨论。
大多数人似乎都同意与按摩师建立私人关系是很愚蠢的，正如许多人所注意到的，这些女人擅长将自己的私生活与工作分开。因此，不管他们在服务期间对你说什么，都不应该被认真对待。他们可能看起来和听起来对你个人很感兴趣，但这可能只是让你成为一个客户的一种方式。
然而，也有一个爱上按摩技师的故事，这似乎是真的。你和这个故事里的那个人一样是个例外吗？你自己决定吧。
Zoey Shen
Answered Oct 30， 2017
Yes， as long as you are attractive to them.
And the key elements are your appearance， society status， money， or your talent.
是的，只要你对他们有吸引力。
关键因素是你的外表、社会地位、金钱或你的才能
本文来源：https://www.quora.com
