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中国有哪些不成文的规定?

What are some of the unwritten rules of China?

爱问 2018-10-16 18:06:44 中国不成文规定
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谢邀。这里有一些未书写的规则供你参考。也许它们并不只存在于中国。

中国有哪些不成文的规定?

Victor Shi, lives in China

Answered Fri

Thanks for the A2A. Here are some unwrittern rules for your reference. Perhaps they don’t exist in China exclusively.

If a man invite you to a high-end restaurant and give you expensive gift and then invite you to a hotel for some rest. If you are not ready to have sex with him, then don’t go, and you’d better not accept the gift at the beginning. Otherwise you’ll may have disputes when you refuse him.

The best time for seeing a doctor is Tuesdays to Thurdays. Most authority doctors are available at this time.

When friends invite you for dinners, don’t take it for granted. Do remember to invite back. Otherwise your name will go stinky and no one would like to interact or hang out with you.

When doing something, you’d better not tell others until you succeed. Otherwise people will be jealous if you succeed or laugh at you when you fail.

Don’t expose your secrets to friends or anyone else easily. They probably will not keep it and don’t expect to make friends by gaining sympathy. Chinese tend to admire the powerful.

Be polite but not too humble. Otherwise you will be seen as weak and many would like to take advantage of you. Draw a bottom line and be ready to fight back when it is challenged.

Democracy is the best policy for dictatorship. For example if a leader want to appoint his trusted follower as the chief of a profitable department, he will held a competition recruiment to show the public the appointment is open, fair and right, but arrange his own people as judges. The procedure is legal so even if there is investigation later, it can go through it.

Government labour commission does not accept anonymous report. Many, if not most, private Chinese companies don’t pay or don’t pay fully social security for employees as the law required, no payment for overtime too. Don’t they fear employees report to labour commission? No need, because the government is deemed to protect Chinese people’s golorious traddition of rights being violated. They don’t accept anonymous report. Only this filters most reporters. Further more, the reporter must have a staff tag, an uniform with company’s name and logo, pay roll and so on…

The most efficient way to break an ordinary friendship is to borrow money.

Knowing to give gifts to leaders and colleagues or invite them for dinners may speed up your promotion and reduce the eye rolls you suffer.

Hope it helps.

谢邀。这里有一些未书写的规则供你参考。也许它们并不只存在于中国。

如果有人邀请你去高档餐厅,送你昂贵的礼物,然后邀请你去酒店休息。如果你还没有准备好和他做爱,那就不要去,最好一开始就不要接受礼物。否则你拒绝他的时候就会有矛盾了。

看医生的最佳时间是星期二到星期四。大多数权威医生此时都有空。

当朋友邀请你共进晚餐时,不要想当然。一定要记得邀请他们回来。否则你的名声会败坏,没有人愿意和你交流或一起闲逛。

在你成功之前,最好不要告诉别人。否则,如果你成功了,人们会嫉妒你;如果你失败了,人们会嘲笑你。

不要轻易向朋友或任何人透露你的秘密。他们可能不会坚持下去,也不会指望通过获得同情而交到朋友。中国人倾向于崇拜有权有势的人。

要有礼貌,但不要太谦虚。否则你会被视为弱者,许多人会想要利用你。画出底线,准备好应对挑战。

民主是独裁的最佳政策。例如,如果一个领导者想要任命他信任的追随者作为一个盈利部门的负责人,他将举办一场竞赛,向公众展示他的任命是公开的、公平的和正确的,但是安排他自己的人民作为法官。这个程序是合法的,所以即使事后进行调查,也可以通过。

政府劳动委员会不接受匿名举报。许多(如果不是大多数)中国民营企业没有按照法律规定为员工支付或没有全额缴纳社保,也没有支付加班费。他们不怕员工向劳动委员会报告吗?不需要,因为政府被视为是人民权利被侵犯提供非常惯例。他们不接受匿名报告。只有这样才能过滤大多数记者。此外,记者必须有一个员工标签,一个统一的公司的名称和商标,工资薪金总额等等……

打破普通友谊最有效的方法就是借钱。

知道给领导和同事送礼物或邀请他们共进晚餐可能会加速你的晋升,并减少你遭受别人异样眼光。

希望它可以帮助。

Eamon Dan, a native Beijinger

Answered Oct 11

When a man asks a girl out, man should pay the bills.

When you see senior people standing on public transportation vehicles, you should give out your seat.

In northern China, if you ask your friend to join dinner/lunch with you, you should pay the bill. And they should return you the favor at next time you guys eat together.

Girls don’t wear clothes which can not cover their cleavages no matter how hot the weather is. A moderate dress in formal senario is ok.

Don’t be obsessed with your private space. China is very crowded.

It is ok to negotiate with government officials when you make mistakes, police officers won’t cuff you nor shoot you.

Don’t be sensitive about racial PC. Chinese are very PInC, but they will never make it a real action, even an eye-rolling.

Don’t criticize the government if you don’t know the people you are talking to very well. Very few Chinese people distinguish people/country/government.

中国有哪些不成文的规定?

当男人约女孩出去时,他应该付账单。

当你看到老人站在公共交通工具上,你应该让出你的座位。

在中国北方,如果你请朋友和你共进晚餐/午餐,你应该买单。下次你们一起吃饭的时候,他们会回报你的。

不管天气多热,女孩子都穿遮住乳沟的衣服。穿得体的正式服装就可以了。

不要迷恋于你的私人空间。中国非常拥挤。

当你犯错误的时候,和政府官员谈判是可以的,警察不会鞭打你,也不会射杀你。

别对种族问题敏感。中国人很喜欢笑,但他们永远也不会真正行动起来,甚至会翻白眼。

如果你不了解和你谈话的人,不要批评政府。很少有中国人把人/国家/政府区分开来。

Te Zhang, Senior Buyer at Hyundai Motor Company (2016-present)

Answered 7h ago

I tell you some rules that are very common and useful when you have a meal with Chinese people.

First off, when you toast with someone, make sure the edge of your cup is lower than his. This is a way of showing your respect to your superiors or so.

Secondly, do not finish off the last piece of food in the plate. Imagine you and your friends are having dinner together, and now there is only one piece of meat left in the plate. The meat is so delicious that everyone wants some more, but even so, no one would want to act as if being very eager for the food or leaving a impression of willing to take advantages. So do not eat the last food in the plate. Just leave it there.

Thirdly, when you drink with friends, do not fill your glass by yourself, instead, fill other people’s glass actively. In China, no one fill his own empty glass by himself when you drink with friends, not because you do not want to, but everyone else just wouldn’t let you to do it. We Chinese people like to help you fill your glass. For one, it’s a way of showing respect as well. For another, that’s a kind of trick to make you drink as much as possible. The more we fill, the more you drink. So it’s kind of like a “filling battle” at a Chinese meal. You will never have to worry there is no more drink at a Chinese meal!

Last but not the least. We Chinese tend to drink at meals, we barely go to bars!

中国有哪些不成文的规定?

我告诉你一些规则,当你和中国人一起吃饭的时候,这些规则是非常普遍和有用的。

首先,当你和某人干杯的时候,确保你杯子的边缘比他的低。这是一种表达你对上司尊敬的方式。

其次,不要把盘子里的最后一块食物吃完。想象一下你和你的朋友正在一起吃饭,现在盘子里只剩下一块肉了。肉是好吃美味,以至于每个人都想要更多,但即便如此,没有人会想要表现得像对食物非常渴望,或者给人留下一种爱占便宜的印象。所以不要吃掉盘子里最后的食物。就这样吧。

第三,当你和朋友一起喝酒的时候,不要自己给自己斟酒,而是主动地给别人斟酒。在中国,当你和朋友一起喝酒时,没有人会自己倒空杯子,不是因为你不想喝,而是别人都不让你喝。我们中国人喜欢帮你斟满酒杯。首先,这也是一种表达尊重的方式。另一方面,这是一种让你尽可能多喝酒的技巧。我们喝得越多,你就喝得越多。所以这有点像在中餐上的“填饱肚子战”。你再也不用担心中餐里没有饮料了!

最后但并非最不重要。我们中国人常在用餐时喝酒,而却很少去酒吧!

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